I need to admit that I am on the journey of self-love and loving myself more 💕. I finally feel like I am making progress (yay!).
I learned that taking care of myself is not selfishness but the responsibility of every human being❣️
As a person who developed codependency in early childhood, it was hard for me to think and care about myself.
It was so easy for me to give up myself for others. I even thought it was a good personality feature.
However, things were getting worse through time in every aspect of my life.
I didn’t realize what is wrong.
So, I gave up myself more, because I felt like maybe I am not giving up myself enough… I was stuck in a big vicious cycle, and I wasn’t aware of it!
Therefore, after many years of looking for solutions to balance my life, I finally recognize that the problem is not outside me but inside my mind.
I had to do hard work to “switch” the mode in my mind in the right direction to self-love.
After a long battle with myself and reading trillions of books about the subject, I understand that serving others of the cost of me is not good anybody.
So, nowadays I spend time with myself and do things that make me happy more often.
And there is a huge improvement in my life and many benefits thanks to lelf-love!
I feel happy, grateful, present more often thanks to self-love.
My self-esteem and confidence increased. I am more assertive, so I protect myself better from being used or disrespected.
On the other side, better self-protection increases my happiness, gratefulness, etc.
So there is a positive “snowball” effect. The more I love myself, the happier I feel.
So, in the past, I was looking for happiness outside of me, but nowadays I know that feeling needs to be found inside of my mind first, by self-love.
I am so glad that I finally understand the quote below because it took me a while to get it!
“Before searching for happiness in others, we must first find it in ourselves.”
~ Charles Glassman